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Lost in Translation: How Men and Women Can Understand Each Other [Hardcover]

By Steve Stephens (Author)
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Pages   208
Est. Packaging Dimensions:   Length: 8.52" Width: 5.6" Height: 0.88"
Weight:   0.79 lbs.
Binding  Hardcover
Release Date   Aug 31, 2007
Publisher   Multnomah Books
ISBN  1590527062  
EAN  9781590527061  

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Answers to Every Couple's Unrealized Questions Guys, did you know there are rules for marriage...and that she's grading you on them every day ? Women, do you know why your hints don't register with him...until you snap? Couples, have you considered your marriage to be a "love bank" requiring daily deposits? Now that centuries-old, universally asked question between the sexes - " Huh? " - finally has an answer! Lost in Translation , by licensed psychologist Steve Stephens , takes an insightful, liberating look at the reasons for every guy's pure clueless ness and every woman's utter frustration. Find hope and practical solutions for every marriage, as well as one-of-a-kind male and female translation guides.

Publishers Description
“He Doesn't Get What I'm Not Saying!”
“She Doesn't Say What She Means!”

Every marriage faces communication problems–whether about sex, vacation, careers, children, or the remote control. Why do guys often feel clueless, no matter how hard they try? Why do women get so tired of dropping hints that they snap? How can something that started out so good, end up so frustating?

Licensed psychologist Dr. Steve Stephens says that communication between genders is truly a cross-cultural experience. The key to communicating well is learning how to interpret the vocabulary, body language, silences, and needs of your spouse–which may be quite different from yours.

Using practical insights from his own two decades of marriage and his twenty-five years as a professional counselor, Dr. Stephens uncovers the differences in communication that lead to relationship breakdown. With a fun and exciting look at the reasons behind marital frustrations, he offers a solution so simple, with results so extraordinary, that you will delight to know what your spouse is really saying–and learn how true communication can change your marriage forever.
Dr. Steve Stephens is a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and popular seminar speaker. A clinical member of the American Psychology Association and the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, he has counseled couples and individuals for more than twenty-five years. Dr. Stephens is the author of more than twenty books, with over one million copies sold. He is the coauthor of The Walk Out Woman and The Worn Out Woman with Alice Gray. He and his wife, Tami, live in Oregon with their three children.
Men are all alike,” Callie seethed.

“That's not fair,” her husband, Greg, insisted. “I'm not like every other man. I'm my own person.”

“But look how you act.”

“Sure, I act like a guy. That's because I am a guy. That's not all bad. You fell in love with me because I'm a guy. Why is it all of a sudden a negative?”

“I guess I didn't realize what I was getting into back then.” Callie gave Greg a smile that left him wondering whether she really meant that she had just said.

“Well…” Greg fished for a worthy retort. “If you're going to pick on us guys, then I can pick on women just as easily. Like, women don't make any sense. Everything has to do with how they feel. And their feelings are constantly changing. On top of that, they worry about everything. And they can't stop talking. Women drive guys nuts, but at least we're polite enough to keep our mouths shut about it.”

“Polite? Did you say polite? I can't believe what I just heard.” Callie's face reddened. “You don't want to get me going on the subject of men and politeness…”

Greg and Callie managed to stretch out this little altercation a full two weeks. With breaks for food and sleep.

Every couple fights. Partners disagree, they stand up for what they believe is right, and they do everything they can to prove their points. They fight about finances, sex, relatives, who does what around the house, children, and a hundred other issues that are usually pettier than any of us want to admit. I know all about fights. Tami and I have certainly had our share.

Yet what amazes me, after working with couples for over twentyfive years, is that what we think we're fighting about is rarely what we're really fighting about. A battle about finances might really be about security. Or interdependence. Or respect. At its heart, a fight about sex probably springs out of issues like love, communication, or connection. And the biggest real issue of all?

I've come to the conclusion that at least 50 percent of all fights between husbands and wives are, at their roots, about gender differences. I've also come to another conclusion: if we could understand these differences, then maybe we wouldn't fight as much. That's the point of this book–to help you understand your spouse better and learn to appreciate him or her more.

My intent is not to stock your bunker with ammo, reinforcing all the ways you think your spouse should change. My purpose is to improve your relationship with your husband or wife. Understanding these differences allows us to be tolerant of our partners.

Yet men understand how men think, and women understand how women think. The bottom line is that gender relations are truly a cross-cultural experience. Men and women think, feel, and communicate differently. Sometimes a whole lot differently. We “speak” different languages. But does that mean we can never understand each other? NO!

There's hope! We can learn to translate each other's language. And when we do, we learn that the opposite sex is a lot less complicated and mysterious than we thought. You've been engaged in the age-old battle of the sexes. It's time to call a truce. Talks can begin. You'll need to consciously set aside old offenses…and new ones. Because I assure you, honesty about gender differences will offend you. That's why I can safely predict that this book is bound to tick you off.

Whenever somebody writes about the differences between men and women, the author is guaranteed to step on someone's toes. So put on your steel-toed boots (or your steel-toed pumps). Men will think I side too much with women–I, a caring, compassionate psychologist who has listened to the hurts and frustrations of countless women. Women, on the other hand, will insist that I side with men. After all, I am one; what more is there to say? How can I sleep night? Well, if I frustrate men and women equally, I figure I'm doing a good job.

And speaking of frustrations, here's another warning. To write about gender differences, one must write in generalities. You'll see me constantly using words like often, tends, frequently, commonly, usually, may, might, most, and many. This is my way of covering myself, since much of what I say might not be totally true of you. For example, verbal, relational men are going to feel as if I'm saying they're feminine, while competitive, nonemotional women will think I'm saying they're masculine. This is not what I'm saying.

The differences are real. And they're true about men and women in general. But no trait is totally characteristic of all men or all women. We are all individuals; there is no cookie-cutter mold determining what a man or a woman is. Many factors besides gender–factors such as individual genetics, birth order, role models, early childhood experience, learning, and personality–interact to make each of us incredibly unique.

My mom was a great mechanic. My dad was not mechanical in the least. I grew up knowing that if I needed help with my car, I should go to Mom. Dad might try to fix it, but he was as likely as not to make it worse.

Enter Tami. And marriage. The garbage disposal breaks. Whom do I ask to fix it? Why, Tami, of course. But Tami comes from a foreign land–the land where dads are the fixers. A concept that baffled me. Our experiences had shaped our expectations–part of who we were. And in that respect, I was an exception to the male rule.

So let me affirm clearly from the outset: there is nothing wrong with you if you don't match up exactly with the typical characteristics of your gender. I visit often with couples who have reversed gender roles in certain areas. Many couples are made up of compassionate men and competitive women. Or women with the stronger sex drive. Or men who are more verbal. These couples find ways to compensate, and their atypical differences have no more impact on their relationship than the typical differences do on typical couples.

Now, a lot of people use differences as an excuse to stubbornly dig in their heels and say, “This is who I am. I can't change. So you'd better just accept it.” Yes, acceptance is important, but a healthy relationship also means give and take by both partners (preferably more give than take).

Neither women nor men should be expected to make all the changes. In most situations, both need to shift. But sometimes men need to take the bigger steps–like learning to listen and share their hearts more. And sometimes women are called on to change more– maybe becoming more sensitive to their husbands' sexual needs or showing greater respect. (Oops! Did I just step on any toes?)

To all whom I will offend or misrepresent in the following pages…I'm sorry. I empathize with the difficulties of learning a new language. But I rejoice in the hope that, as you learn, God will answer my prayer–that the following short chapters will bring you and your spouse closer together in a marriage that is becoming ever

• richer,
• sweeter,
• and more exciting.

you're different.

One of the ways we can improve our marriages is by gaining understanding about the opposite gender.
But no one perfectly fits all of his or her gender's typical traits.

1. In what ways are most men alike?
2. In what ways are most women alike?
3. How are each of you different from the norm for men and

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Register your artisan biography and upload your photo! Dr. Steve Stephens
Dr. Steve Stephens is a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, seminar speaker, and author. Dr. Stephens is the author of twenty books, with over one million copies sold, including the Lists to Live By series, "The Worn Out Woman, The Walk Out Woman, " and "21 Surprisingly Simple Steps to a Great Life. "He lives with his wife, Tami, and three children in Oregon.
Pam Vredevelt
Pam Vredevelt is a licensed professional counselor, popular inspirational speaker, and bestselling author of the Espresso for a Woman s Spirit series, "Angel Behind the Rocking Chair, Empty Arms: Emotional Support for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Tubal Pregnancy, "and "The Power of Letting Go." Pam and her husband, John, and their three children make their home in Gresham, Oregon."

Steve Stephens currently resides in the state of Oregon. Steve Stephens was born in 1954.

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Reviews - What do our customers think?
great book!  Oct 27, 2008
like another reviewer, i too liked the short chapters. very informative. i found myself laughing out loud at the parts that pointed to certain gender behavior. again, very interesting and informative. recommend it.
You and your husband must read this!!! - if you want to have a great relationship  Mar 7, 2008
My husband and I read this book (actually, I'm behind than him) and we do the exercise that Dr. Stephens gives us the end of each chapter. This is an awesome book! You both will be amazed how much things you didn't know about your spouse!!
I like the short chapters  Sep 6, 2007
This book has a lot of good advice packed into short, practical chapters. Each chapter ends with one tip each for the husband and wife and then three "talk it through" questions. Dr. Steve Stephens draws from his experiences as a marriage and family therapist for the past twenty-five years. LOST IN TRANSLATION will help you understand your spouse better and appreciate him or her more.

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