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How Can You Tell If You're Really in Love? [Paperback]

By Sol Gordon (Author)
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Pages   224
Est. Packaging Dimensions:   Length: 6.7" Width: 4" Height: 0.8"
Weight:   0.1 lbs.
Binding  Softcover
Release Date   Jan 31, 1997
Publisher   Adams Media Corporation
ISBN  1580624723  
EAN  9781580624725  
UPC  045079204720  

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Are you really in love?

Is your partner committed to your happiness?

Does your relationship energize you?

Can your love survive change?

Do you trust your mate?

Are you satisfied with your level of commitment?

Is your relationship realistic?

Do you have to be together all of the time?

Whether you're single, in a relationship, or already married, how can you tell if you're really in love? In this groundbreaking new book, Dr. Sol Gordon provides fresh and surprising answers to your most pressing questions about love and romance.

Dr. Sol Gordon's newest book is packed with:
Quizzes and self-tests that can help you evaluate your romantic relationships
Fresh perspectives on love
Dozens of real-life examples of couples who are really in love
Ingredients of a successful relationship
Tendencies that lead people to the wrong partner
Patterns to avoid in relationships

How Can You Tell If You're Really In Love? redefines what true love ultimately is. It will help you determine whether your current or prospective mate is the right one for you!

From the author of the self-help classic Why Love is not Enough - over 200,000 sold!

Buy How Can You Tell If You're Really in Love? by Sol Gordon from our Christian Books store - isbn: 9781580624725 & 1580624723 upc: 045079204720

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If you are at a crossroads  Jul 9, 2007
This book is not a gloom as the reader who gave it one star makes it seem. I did start reading out of fear that my relationship is coming to a crossroads, and that maybe a change is needed (and since you can't change people...) He is honestly PRO-love and PRO-relationship, if it is the right one. Some of the material is directed at people in physically abusive relationships, but the rest is valid for most of us. Especially, in this, the age of people meeting on the internet or getting married after knowing someone for a whopping three months! I have never done any of these things and I still needed to read it. I will say it is helping me. I see my boyfriend in a different light and is helping me to open up and communicate.

I remember how frustrating dating can be, but the hardest parts come after the romance wears thin. Whether you are not sure if you are with "the right one" or even "a good one", or are just coming out of something terrible, you should read it. If you can be honest with yourself, you should read it. If you are going to play the blame game, then skip it.
humane, sane advice that's in tune with modern realities  Jun 22, 2007
I bought this book when I was questioning the future of my relationship, and was looking for resources on the development of romantic relationships over time. I was happily surprised to find that this little book is far more than its title would ever suggest.

Alterate titles could be
-"A Humane Approach to Modern Love Relationships"
-"You May Not Like It But It Works: Dispelling Fantasy in Love Relationships"
-"Get Real and It'll All Work Out: Love without BS"

As I read the book, I was amazed at how straight-forward and sane much of the advice is here. Some of it may seem pathetically obvious, but in today's society, advice to consider non-traditional partnerships (cohabitation, same sex, etc) or to have your own life in order before bringing another person into it feels refreshing and smart.

More than a "Mars/Venus" approach, this book's tone assumes its readers are grounded, have common sense, want a good and healthy relationship, and are mature enough to accept that no one person can fulfill another person's every need. Throughout this little book are reminders that we are the architects of our lives, and ergo, our love lives. For those who have forgotten, this book offers many gentle reminders and seem so fresh and modern in an over-complicated society where love relations are at the top of the "complicated" list.

Sol Gordon is a psychologist and sex educator. His progressive, liberated, and humane ideas about love and sex are right in tune with how things are now. Gordon is a humanist, and that background informs his ideas and this book. The advice is neither overly optimistic, overly simplified, or overly pessimistic. This tome and his other books, including "Why Love is Not Enough," encourage a REALISTIC view about relationships, that there is no "perfect person," and that loving is a process in which two human beings open to it can find balance and joy, if they simply open their minds and hearts.
Teenager Resource  Mar 18, 2007
I have given the book to my teenager, and she is reading the book and find it very interesting.
A great way to improve your relationship  Dec 8, 2001
This book is really about finding your OWN center in life - knowing what you enjoy in life, what you want from a partner, and that you deserve to be happy and with someone that makes you happy. It then helps you look at the relationship you're in, and with open eyes determine if it's a healthy one for you.

The book isn't wishy-washy about this. He says quite openly, "By the way, about the dumbest thing anyone can do is to marry for sex. If sex is the only thing to look forward to in a marriage, don't marry at all. It's not worth it." That's the tone of a lot of the book - common sense. Don't put up with someone that enjoys insulting you. Don't confuse that rush of hormones in the first few weeks of dating as "true love which will last forever". With his years of experience, he helps you see common mistakes people make, and how to get through them.

He points out that too many of us are raised on quick-fixes these days. Magazines talk about the "27 signs you're in love" - featuring things like "you read his horoscope". People break off relationships as soon as they get the slightest bit difficult. He instead talks about the ways you really can know if the relationship is good for you, and that it's worth working on and getting to last.

Like all books, not every suggestion applies to every person, or to every situation. However, if you're able to read this with an open mind, and accept that your own perceptions might be causing some of the problems in your relationship, he'll help you find ways to change and grow into a more healthy situation.

Love and Self Portraits  Jun 19, 2001
I am usually not one for reading self-help books,but I was given this one by a good friend of mine and ordered to read it. So I did, and what I read was quite impressive. The title of the book is certainly what the book is about, but the book is also about gaining self-knowledge.

Gordon himself says at the end of the introduction, "This book is about encouraging you to go on a self-discovery - to find your own voice." The book not only helps you examine your relationships and determine what you need in them, but it also helps you examine yourself - especially learning about negative things that you may carry into a relationship. The downside to this is that once you see all the negative characteristics staring you in the face, you become depressed and feel that you are not ever meant to be a relationship, let alone a good one. The upside is that once you look past the negativity, your mind starts turning, and you begin to realize that you can change things about yourself, and possibly about your relationship, but only if you want to.

Let me give you a personal example. I have been dating the most wonderful man on and off for the past 4 years. For at least 3 of those years, I was pretty certain that we were not meant for each other, but I wanted to be with him and couldn't reconcile my feelings. He didn't do things the way I wanted him to, he didn't say things I wanted him to say, and so on. Yet he was the sweetest, handsomest, kindest man in the world, and he was and is still completely in love with me. So what happened to change my mind? What happened was that I was given this book to read, and after reading it, I took a good long look, not only at our relationship as a whole, but at myself, and what I found was appalling. I began to see all these negative interactions that I would create between us, just because I had always done so with other partners. I began to realize that part of the reason he wasn't getting through to me, was because I wasn't letting him - not because I didn't want him to, but because that was the way I had always been. I realized that something had to be done, because I wanted to be with him. So I began to change. I viewed every interaction or exchange with him as a new challenge to me to see if I could respond in positive ways. I cannot express in words how incredible it was to see the change. I became a totally different person around him. He picked up on the positive vibes and began to react to me positively and affectionately as well, just like I had always wanted him to. I actually LIKED myself, and I finally fell in love with him. All I can say is that our relationship has been truly wonderful ever since, and I'm grateful that he stayed with me.

So I just want to tell readers that while you may think the book seems to condemn your relationship to the never-meant-to-be pile, make sure you dive under the surface before you decide to walk away. Gordon says, "What does matter is the active pursuit of closeness with another person, and making the effort to enrich your life through self-development." In essence, Gordon has written the perfect book - one that opens readers' eyes to many love and relationship issues, and one that challenges readers to examine themselves, and their relationships, and to make changes where they need to be made. The trick is knowing the "where." But if you remain open-minded and you want to change, you'll figure it out.


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